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26-year-old reveals how her gym's unusual 'dress code' makes new people feel welcome

About 50 percent of all gym-goers have felt judged by others for their clothing choices.

26-year-old reveals how her gym's unusual 'dress code' makes new people feel welcome
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Dress codes at the gym can be a touchy subject. On the one hand, having some basic rules around appropriate dress in a public space like a commercial gym seems reasonable — not to mention, safe and hygienic. On the other, these policies almost always unfairly target women — men at the gym frequently get away with low-cut tank tops and "stringer" tanks that show their ribs, while women get singled out and embarrassed for any sign of cleavage or stomach.

So when a 26-year-old influencer from New York recently made a video addressing why she only wears certain types of clothes to workout, I thought: Oh boy, here we go again.

But as Caitlin began to explain her fitness club's rigid 'dress code', and the reasoning behind it, many of her viewers found themselves pretty surprised.

"You're only allowed to wear black activewear at my gym and let me explain why," she began, responding to a question someone asked regarding why she only ever seemed to wear one color of workout clothes.

"There's a few reasons they do this, the first reason is to avoid comparison," Caitlin said of her club, Greenwich Village Athletic.

Some people might see someone wearing an outfit and feel bad that they don't have as fashionable clothes themselves, or maybe worry that they 'couldn't pull it off', Caitlin reasoned.

"You don't know what everyone's style is outside the gym. Everybody looks the same, you have basically a uniform and you can go to the gym and not feel like you have to worry about what you're wearing."

The one exception? If it's your birthday you can wear a different color, so everyone remembers to give you a shoutout.

Greenwich Village Athletic clarified in an email that the dress code is not enforced, it's more of a tradition that members choose to partake in. Technically, members are allowed to wear whatever's comfortable, but they're encouraged to adopt the uniform for all the benefits it provides.

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Replying to @Nervous System Regulation ✨ @Elite Eleven my only motivation to go to the gym #activewear #size12fashion #size8fashion @The Athletic Clubs AD

Lack of confidence is one of the biggest reasons more people don't exercise in public or go to the gym.

Anxiety and "gymtimidation" affect men, too, but certainly has a bigger impact on women. One survey found that over 60% of women had avoided going to the gym out of fear of being judged by others.

There are a lot of factors that contribute to that lack of confidence, like not feeling good about your body or not knowing how to use the machines or navigate the gym, but feeling pressure to look your best and put your most fashionable foot forward is definitely part of the problem — the same survey found that nearly half of people polled felt judged at the gym for their clothing choices.

I'm a guy who goes to the gym regularly and I even catch myself worrying about this! I always find myself hesitating if my shirt and pants don't match, or my favorite gym clothes are dirty and I have to wear backups — which is absurd because I hardly ever speak to anyone at the gym, so why should I care if my outfit is going to impress a bunch of random people?


Women in black athletic wear exercising Photo by Meghan Holmes on Unsplash

There's a very fine line between wanting to look good for yourself and being worried about what other people will think. Exercising is hard enough without that negative self-talk creeping in. Being encouraged to wear all black, and only black, may not take all the guesswork out of choosing a workout outfit, but it certainly simplifies things. This is part of why Steve Jobs – and many other successful people — wear the same exact thing every day. Life is hard enough and filled an overwhelming number of decisions, trying to figure out what to wear so other people think you look good doesn't have to be one of them.

The all-black 'dress code' at Greenwich Village Athletic isn't for everyone. Some people like to express themselves through what they wear, and feel stifled by a uniform-like requirement.

One person had a, uh, colorful opinion to share under one of the gym's videos explaining the dress code: "*#*@ that I'm wearing something else." (Which, according to the official policy, is totally their right.)

But others appreciated a policy that wasn't designed to police women's cleavage, but to make everyone feel comfortable and confident by removing comparison:

"I just do this anyways helps me not think about what I have to wear as well and black is always flattering even if I don’t feel great still gets me in the gym!" a commenter wrote under Caitlin's video.

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Pita and David in front of their mobile plant shop

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If there is a positive connection between mental health and caring for plants, Lupita Ríos is determined to make it her life’s work to share it with the world.

Ríos owns Dallas-based Pita’s Planters, a small business offering handmade planters, vases, art, bouquet preservation. Her love of vegetation can be traced back to where she spent her childhood—in the jungles of Guatemala—but it wasn’t until Ríos began struggling with panic attacks after college that she realized how healing plants can be.

During a particularly anxious period in her life, the only thing that brought her comfort was a plant she’d inherited from a co-worker. “Every day I would come into work and see some new growth or a new little leaf, and I would just feel so excited … it was like this little seed of light for me during a time when I was not feeling much joy,” said Ríos.

Pita in her plant shop https://www.pitasplanters.com

So she did what made sense: she kept growing plants, eventually learning how to create pots from recycled materials. During the pandemic, she and her husband opened a mobile plant store, which allowed her to share her passion with people in the community. What began as a meditative hobby quickly turned into a booming business, and Ríos, who is also working towards a Ph.D in Neuroscience, found herself overwhelmed with the things that come with being a small business owner (like keeping up with voice messages!).

“I learn as I go,” said Ríos, mentioning that one of the rookie decisions she made as a first-time business owner was to list her cell phone number under the business as the official contact number. “I quickly learned that was not a good idea! I got calls from customers left and right because the business grew so quickly.”

A friend suggested leveraging technology to keep Ríos’ sanity intact. She enrolled in Verizon Small Business Digital Ready, a free online program that offers small businesses nationwide access to over 50 expert courses and grant funding opportunities. The program includes resources created by small business owners for small business owners, covering topics such as marketing, financial planning, social media management, and more. For Ríos, this was the answer to juggling school and business without dropping any balls while the business continues to grow.

Taking control of her mobile plan was the first step in streamlining—and leveling up!—the business. Verizon’s My Biz Plan allowed her select and pay for only what she needed the One Talk App allowed her to reclaim her cell phone for personal use, and Verizon Business Assistant, a GenAI-powered text messaging solution , has been an enormous time-saver. Verizon Business’ 2025 State of Small Business Survey revealed 38% of SMBs are currently using AI–Lupita is one of many using it to help. Instead of spending precious time replying to every DM inquiring about the hours of her shop or troubleshooting a repotted plant’s wilting leaves, business owners like Ríos can set up, customize, and train a virtual assistant to field these questions.

“I didn't even realize I needed this in my life, but Verizon was like, we work with a lot of small businesses and we have a lot of tools that help set your business up so that I can focus on the products, on the marketing, on everything else. And I know that Verizon's got me covered in other ways where I don't have to think about it so much. It is so nice to have someone looking out for you and saying, ‘Yeah, you're busy. We got you covered here. We can take care of this."’

Verizon is committed to reaching one million small businesses with the resources they need to be successful by 2030—with over 450,000 small businesses like Pita’s Planters already using Digital Ready to help their businesses thrive.

Pita and David at their brick and mortar shophttps://www.pitasplanters.com

As for Ríos’ plans for after she receives her doctorate in Neuroscience? She wants to become a professor and continue growing her plant business.“Honestly, there’s nothing quite like having someone walk in who says they’ve never owned a plant before,” said Ríos. “Let me start your plant journey…within a few weeks, you’ll have a jungle in your house.”

Do you own a small business? Verizon offers over $1M in small business grants every year! Complete an application for the Verizon Small Business Digital Readyportal between May 1, 2025, and 11:59 pm PT on June 30, 2025, to be eligible for the application process for a $10,000 grant consideration.

A man and two women having a fun conversation.

There’s no one alive who doesn’t feel some anxiety about making small talk with other people. The difference is that some confront their fears because they know the incredible benefits that it can mean for their social life, romantic prospects, and careers, while some shy away and miss out on many opportunities.

Many people who avoid small talk believe those who excel at it are naturally charismatic or have been blessed with the “gift of gab.” However, many great conversationalists honed their skills and have a set of rules, techniques, and strategies they use when speaking to people, just like how people who do improvisational comedy or acting have a set of rules to follow to put everyone on the same page. Confident, sociable people may make engaging with others look effortless, but that’s because they have a strategy.

conversation, fun office, men and woman, funny conversation, jokes, levityA group of coworkers having a laugh.via Canva/Photos

What is the 30-second rule?

New York Times bestselling author and founder of the Maxwell Institute, John C. Maxwell, had a rule whenever he started a conversation: “Within the first 30 seconds of a conversation, say something encouraging to a person.” This can work in any social or professional situation, for example:

At work:

“Wendy, I heard you did great on yesterday’s conference call.”

“Frank, I hear the clients really love working with you.”

At a party:

“Mohammed, I really loved those pictures you posted on Instagram on your trip to Mexico.”

“Sang, are we going to get some of your incredible barbecue today?”

On a date:

“Thanks for choosing such a great restaurant, it has such a nice ambiance.”

“I really like the way your necklace brings out your eyes.”

date, conversation, laughs, jokes, salads, dinner, restaurant, cafeA man and woman joking on a date.via Canva/Photos

Whether you are complimenting, relaying positive information about the person, or encouraging them, the key is to pump them up and make them feel good about themselves. The 30-second rule fits nicely into Maxwell’s overall view of relationships: “Those who add to us, draw us to them. Those who subtract, cause us to withdraw,” he said.

The key to giving the other person encouragement is to do so genuinely. If you aren’t genuine with your compliments or words of encouragement, your words can have the opposite effect and make the other person feel like you are being condescending.

How does encouragement make people feel?

encouragement, poeple in blue shirts, luaghs, my bad, smiles, supportive peopleA man making a joke with other people in blue shirts.via Canva/Photos

Studies have shown that when people hear words of encouragement, they feel good and have a burst of energy. Psychologist Henry H. Goddard studied tired children and found that they had a burst of energy when he said something encouraging to them. But when he said something negative, they became even more tired.

Ultimately, a direct connection exists between being likeable and being genuinely interested in other people. William King said, “A gossip is one who talks to you about other people. A bore is one who talks to you about himself. And a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself.”

Every time you start a new conversation with someone, take the opportunity to share some words of encouragement with the other person, and you’ll be on your way to being seen as a brilliant conversationalist.

Innovation

Ever seen how a sewing machine actually works? Even engineers' minds are blown by it.

"I'm a mechanical engineer and a grown man. I still consider a sewing machine to be a magical device."

Sewing machines are mechanical marvels.

Have you ever wondered how a sewing machine actually works? We've all likely seen some version of one, so we know you push a pedal, the needle goes up and down really fast, and fabric gets pushed through coming out the other side perfectly stitched.

But when you think about it from a hand-sewing perspective, it doesn't makes sense. With a sewing machine, the needle isn't being pulled all the way through the fabric—it's just the tip of the needle being inserted and pulled back out. Those of us who've used a sewing machine know there's bobbin thread that gets pulled from underneath to help form the stitch, but how? From the outside, it just looks like the needle and thread are going up and down, and yet the result is tight, perfect stitches of varying lengths and styles being created at incredible speed. How does it do it?

sewing machine, sewing, how sewing machines work, making clothes, technologySewing Machine Vintage GIFGiphy

It turns out, it's not a dumb question. Veritasium created a video with a blown up model demonstrating how sewing machines work, and it's actually quite incredible. Despite being around for nearly 200 years, sewing machines are still a mechanical marvel, even to people who study engineering. As one commenter wrote, "I'm a mechanical engineer and a grown man. I still consider a sewing machine to be a magical device."

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As the video explains, sewing machines couldn't be made without first inventing a whole new way of sewing. Sewing machines aren't just a faster version of hand sewing—they create stitches in a whole different way that doesn't require a needle to go all the way through the fabric and then be reinserted.

For tens of thousands of years, humans have created sewing needles out of bone or wood that are all pretty much the same—sharp tip on one end, hole for thread on the other. But a sewing machine needle puts the hole at the same end as the sharp point. That gets the thread through the fabric without pulling the whole needle through. Then it's just a matter of catching the thread and tangling it to keep it from pulling out when the needle is pulled out.

sewing machine needles, how a sewing machine works, sewing, sew needles, threadsSewing machine needles put the hole at the same end as the sharp tip.Photo credit: Canva

The story of the sewing machine is actually a story of many innovators coming up with ideas and then building on one another's models. Early sewing machine patents used a hook below the needle that either went back and forth or rotated to grab the thread and pull it forward as the needle went up, creating a simple chain stitch. The chain stitch works as long as no one pulls on the loose end, as the chain stitch is easily undone. (The demonstration in the video is really a must see for this.)

More complex chain stitches were created to solve this problem, but it was the lock stitch using two separate thread sources that really made the sewing machine the titan of inventions that it truly is. The bobbin thread gets intertwined with the needle thread, creating a stitch that can't be pulled out. There have been two main version of the lockstitch machine, one that used a shuttle that moved back and forth and one that most machines today use, which is the round bobbin hook.

sewing machine, mechanical engineering, how a sewing machine works, sewing, stitchesModern sewing machines use the same basic mechanics as machines over 100 years ago, just digitally controlled. Photo credit: Canva

The last sewing machine problem to solve was moving the fabric through the machine at an even pace. A grooved metal "foot" was attached that moved with the rhythm of the bobbin and needle to even move the fabric with each stitch. Simple, but genius.

Judging by the comments, many people had no idea how sewing machines worked before seeing this demonstration:

"At last! I have asked so many people how sewing machines work. I have looked at the machines, consulted experts, read manuals, and none told me how they work. I was amazed that people who worked with sewing machines for a living had no knowledge of, nor curiosity in, how they work."

"My mom, who is very good at sewing, didn't do it in a while because her machine wasn't set properly anymore after decades. As an engineer, I searched for the old instruction manual online, and carefully followed the instructions and oiled everything up : the machine was working flawlessly again. And I realized that I had NO IDEA of how it did work in the first place. So she explained it to me. I was literally amazed, so 1) seeing your video and your own amazement is so pleasing to me, and 2) blessed be my mom."

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"I just got a vintage singer. I want to learn to make my own curtains, and clothes. I only have a straight stitch, but being a nerd your video helped me learn how to use the sewing machine. Knowing how it works, helps to know how to thread and set up the bobbin. I watched a few videos and couldn't understand it from the basic steps they were showing. I had to know how it works first. Excellent!"

"I’m a mechanical engineer and forever promised myself to someday take time to figure out how sewing machines work. You crossed this item off my list in just 15 minutes. I owe you the pizza of your choice. Thank you!"

"I use sewing machines pretty much every day at work and the funny thing to me is that most of us prefer older mechanical machines over modern digital ones. The action is just so much smoother, the sound is better, the power and durability is better. If you have a well maintained vintage machine, it'll probably outlive your grandchildren."

It's hard to overstate how the sewing machine changed life on Earth for humans. Not having to hand sew clothing, bedding, furniture coverings, etc. has saved us countless hours of work and enabled mass production of textiles. (Unfortunately, it has also enabled "fast fashion" to proliferate, but that's really a human problem, not a mechanical one.) Pretty incredible how the engineering of sewing machines still manages to amaze people, even after nearly two centuries.

Family

People applaud brother for 'blowing up at sister' over the name she chose for her baby

"I told her that the name was completely unacceptable, and I was shocked that she chose it."

A brother and sister in a disagreement.

The name your parents choose for you can significantly impact your life. Whether it’s how you’re treated in school and by peers, your professional prospects, or how well you do in the dating arena. A name is nothing to joke about. That’s why an uncle-to-be is mad at his sister. He thinks she isn’t taking naming her unborn daughter seriously and fears it will have dire consequences for the girl in the future.

What started as a funny joke between the brother (a biology student) and his sister (a nurse) has become a bone of contention between the siblings. It all started when the brother sent his sister a humorous list of potential names for his niece based on medical terms.

“I knew she was struggling, so in addition to the $900 wooden crib on her list that I got for her, I gave her a list of (obviously) joke baby names. We have a really close relationship, and it was in line with both our senses of humor,” the brother wrote on Reddit's AITA forum.

“She's a nurse, and I'm a biology student, so all the names were medications, infections, unpleasant animals, etc., that all sound like lovely girls' names out of context,” he continued. “Some of them were a little bit obscure, sure, but I included some obvious ones like ‘Viagra’ and ‘Hernia’ for good measure.

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The problem was that the sister liked one of the names and plans on giving it to her daughter. “Malassezia. The baby's name is Malassezia. One of the names on my joke list. Outside of the immediate issues (nearly impossible to pronounce on the first try, the ‘ass’ smack dab it the middle of it, the first syllable being mal-, literally meaning bad or evil), it's also the name of a very common fungal infection,” he wrote. “One that my sister and I are both genetically predisposed to. One that we've both had multiple times throughout our lives. Her daughter will almost certainly catch it at some time!” The brother told his sister that the name is “completely unacceptable.”

What is Malassezia?

According to the Cleveland Clinic, Malassezia occurs when “yeast that occurs as part of your skin’s natural flora multiplies and infects the hair follicles,” the website reads. “The condition causes itchy pimples to form on your face, scalp and upper body. Healthcare providers treat this fungal infection with topical and systemic antifungal medications.”

The mother completely understands the downside of the name but insists that “it's so obscure that no one will ever think twice about it.” The mother-to-be simply likes the sound of the name. Unsure of what to do, the brother posted the story on Reddit to see if he was in the wrong.

birth certificate, baby name, baby footprint, baby hospital, doctorA doctor taking the baby's footprint.via Canva/Photos

The vast majority of the commenters thought he was totally right to demand the baby’s name be changed.

"I share your frustration, and you're looking out for your niece. While your sis is right that it's her parental right, you're not stepping out of line -- you're family and you're cautioning her,” one commenter wrote. "Tell [the father] so he can veto it,” another commenter added. “Also, how is your sister not thinking about the embarrassment that is going to come with this name? The doctors at every baby appointment will know. I wouldn't be surprised if doctors and nurses giggle when they see her chart. And when she's in school, kids will likely find out what her name means and bully her. Tell your sister to think about her daughter's future. She's thinking too much about her feelings and not thinking about her daughter who would have to live with that name."

One commenter broke the name into chunks and found it has multiple meanings. “Mal = bad + ass = bad ass. So we have the nickname. Now Ezia - Hebrew for elegance? e-Zia as in electronic aunt (Italian?) or electric cottage/home/campervan (Pueblo?),” they wrote.

The only people who thought the brother was wrong were those who believed his sister was pulling a fast one on him. “You gave a joke name list and seem unable to tell she's joking back,” they wrote.

Ultimately, just about everyone agrees that the brother was right to speak up. Names matter, and kids have to live with them their entire lives. Hopefully, his sister takes the hint before her daughter has a name better suited to a microscope slide than a birth certificate.

“I came back, I'm like, ‘Aww!’”

Countless people who have encountered a near-death experience, or NDE, have reported feeling incomprehensible levels of tranquility and freedom from pain. Which is, at the very least, an intriguing thought. As scary as death is, we can maybe take comfort in the fact that bliss beyond our wildest imagination might await us once we cross that threshold.

This certainly seems to be the case for Jeremy Renner. Following his nearly fatal snowplow accident in 2023, the Hawkeye actor has been getting candid about how it initially felt to return to his mortal coil. Turns out, it wasn't as great as the alternative.

Speaking to Kelly Ripa on a recent episode of her Let’s Talk podcast, Renner called going past the veil a “great relief.”


“It's a wonderful, wonderful relief to be removed from your body,” he told Ripa. “It is the most exhilarating peace you could ever feel. You don't see anything but what's in your mind's eye. Like, you're the atoms of who you are, the DNA, your spirit. It's the highest adrenaline rush, but the peace that comes with it, it's magnificent. It's so magical.”

The euphoria was so potent, in fact, that Renner “was so pissed off” when doctors resuscitated him.

“I came back, I'm like, ‘Aww!’” he recalled. “I saw the eyeball again, I’m like, ‘Oh, s---, I’m back,’ Saw my legs. I'm like, ‘Yeah, that's gonna hurt later.’ I'm like, ‘All right, let me continue to breathe.'"

Renner also had another poignant note to make. While many people who have had NDEs also remember seeing or sensing the presence of deceased loved ones, when asked by Ripa if he had such an occurrence, Renner replied, “You don't need to. That's a human experience.”

“Time is a human construct," he continued. “It's useless. It's not linear. It's not how it exists. It's just like the most remedial version of your spirit's existence is being on Earth. This is so remedial, language, all these things and blah, blah, blah… It's all knowing, all experiencing, all at the same time, all at once.”

Or course, not every NDE includes such positive, affirming sensations. According to Scientific American, they can also be “frightening, marked by intense terror, anguish, loneliness and despair,” though these types of NDEs might not receive as much press “because of shame, social stigma and pressure to conform to the prototype of the ‘blissful’ NDE.”

As the outlet noted, this could perhaps indicate that the quality of a person’s NDE—whether they go through heaven or hell before entering the great beyond—depends heavily on the stories that shape the individual’s mind.

And on a hopeful note, the research by and large seems to indicate that “the experience of death” frequently leads to “positive long-term psychological transformation and growth,” helping people to become more loving, compassionate, grateful, joy, and fulfillment.

It’s not exactly a subject that’s easy to measure and study, but from the countless stories we’ve heard just like Renner’s, maybe we can take solace in the very real possibility that there is more to life than the time we spend on this planet.

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They were instantly transported back in time.

It's just a fact of life that as you get older, you somehow get "less cool." Of course, you also care much less about being cool, so it doesn't really sting all that much. But every once in a while, it's nice to show the kids that they're not the only ones who know how to vibe.

And that was exactly the feat achieved by Gen Xers during a wholesome TikTok trend that instantly transported you right back in the attitude-filled, neon colored post-disco Decade of Decadence, otherwise known as the 80s.

Specifically, it’ took you back to an 80s dance club. In the trend, which peaked around a years ago, kids asked their parents to “dance like it’s the 80s,” as the 1984 track “Smalltown Boy” by the British pop band Bronski Beat played in the background. The song's high energy tempo mixed with heartbreaking, anguish-ridden lyrics make it a fitting choice to bring us back to the time period.

As for the parents—let's just say that muscle memory kicked in the minute the tune began to play, and it was a whole vibe.

Check out Tabatha Lynn's video of her mom, Leanne Lynn, which quickly racked up over 8 million views.

@tabathalynnk My moms 80s dance moves, I wanna be her when I grow up 😍 our kids better not ask us this in 30 years 😂 #80s #momsoftiktok #dancemoves ♬ Smalltown Boy - Bronski Beat

Leanne and Tabatha told TODAY that since going viral, the dance became a common “topic of conversation in the family text group.”

There are two factors here that folks really seem to connect with. One: 80s dancing was simple. Just moving to the rhythm, maybe a head bob for some flair or a robot if you’re feeling adventurous. Of course, the 80s had ambitious moves like the worm and the moonwalk, but for the most part it was just about groovin’ to beat.

@marynepi One thing about Ms. Suzanne, shes gonna slay. #fypage #dance #slay #80s #yasqueen #trending #trend ♬ Smalltown Boy - Bronski Beat

Two: there’s something inexplicably heartwarming about seeing the parents light up at the chance to go back to the days of their youth.

“I can literally see the young women in these women spring out in fluidity. Love this trend,” one person commented.

@lavaleritaaa Love her 😭 “Se me espeluco el moño” 😂 #80s #momdancechallenge ♬ Smalltown Boy - Bronski Beat

Another seconded, “I love seeing moms remember when they were just themselves.”

Of course, dads are totally rocking this trend too. Check it out:

@chrisbrown711 I dont normally do trends but i got in on this one. How did I do? #fyp #blessed #80sdancechallenge #80smusic #80s ♬ Smalltown Boy - Bronski Beat

The 80s was a time of rapid expansion for music. Much of this we have the birth of MTV to thank for, which subsequently dropped music videos, CDs and a vast array of music sub genres straight into the heart of pop culture.

Plus, the 80s brought us the synthesizer, which remains a strangely satisfying sound even in 2024. So while the era might have brought some things that most of us would prefer not to revisit—like acid washed denim and awful, awful hairstyles—some of its gems are truly timeless.

The trend also shows how, even though the weekly outing to a dance hall might be a thing of the past, people inherently want to bust a move. Luckily, there’s no shortage of clubs that cater to someone’s music tastes, no matter the era.

Speaking for 00s teens everywhere…just play the Cha Cha slide and we’ll come a-runnin.

This article originally appeared last year.

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